About Mom

While Mom was visiting we were talking about a few things. One of the things we discussed was my sister being upset that Mom had forgotten her girlfriend’s name (They have been together for about 3 years and I consider her my sister-in-law *grins* but that’s a different story).

My sister gets loud when she gets upset and Pam heard my sister going off about Mom forgetting her name. So Pam had hurt feelings and didn’t want to come for the visit. My sister was angry and thought my Mom did it on purpose because she didn’t like Pam. Mom had no idea that by her forgetting Pam’s name that she had caused her to feel hurt. So I had to be the peace maker and get my family to a point where everyone was on the same page.

I ended up talking to all 3 of them; I started with my sister, she told me how the conversation went and how Pam had heard her yelling. The next step was to talk to Mom, she admitted that she was having a hard time remembering things; Mom has never been good with names; forgetting simple things is very difficult for her. It scares me that she is getting older. I never really gave the situation any thought. Now I will have to. So I called my sister back and explained the situation and that Mom felt bad that she had hurt Pam’s feelings. It had never been her intention. My sister finally understood that Mom needed love and compassion instead of anger. Then I spoke to Pam and explained that Mom loved her and that she was the best thing to happen to my sister. *grins* I was happy because everyone was on the same page. When my sister and Pam showed up I quietly reminded Mom of Pam’s name and the visit went really well. Mom talked to Pam as I put the finishing touches on dinner.

Nelly and Pam were helping Janette, their friend move to San Antonio before the New Year. So they were passing through and dropping off Tiffany (Janette’s cat that she can’t keep because of her new job – So I have a new cat. Janette will stop by for visits when she is here in Dallas to see Tiffany.)

Tiffany is slowly adjusting to the household and all of the changes in her environment. Holmes is being a little jerk hissing at her whenever she is around him. Holmes has officially made me angry to the point that I put him in the spare room with a litter box, food and water; he will have to decide how long the time out will last. I need to get a picture of Tiffany soon.